As a parent, you worry. You didn’t set out to become so anxious. It’s just what we do. We worry from the moment they’re born to the day we drop them off in their college dorm. Then, we worry all the way home. While much of this is natural, a ton of it is born out of habit. Learning to break those habits can unlock the pure joy that parenthood was intended to provide. That’s the message behind my new parenting book, “Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck”.
A #1 international bestseller, it’s filled with insights I’ve learned over more than 20 years of parenting. If you’ve ever wondered what it would be like to break free of the what-ifs that keep you up at night, this read is for you. Let’s take a look at a few of the themes of the book, and what you can expect to learn.
Given the title, you’d expect this to be a book all about your relationship with your children. While we’ll cover that, it really begins a little closer to home.
How well do you truly understand yourself? Beyond magazine personality quizzes and enneagrams, do you really get what makes you tick? Are you fully aware of the emotions, reactions, and ambitions you’re projecting?
Whether you realize it or not, your own ego plays a major role in how you parent. It defines the way you speak to your children, the methods you use to get them to listen, and the factors you rely on to motivate them.
When we’re in the thick of parenting, it’s hard to take a step back. We’ve got bags under our eyes, cereal bowls in the sink, and laundry piling up in the hamper. Rarely are we granted the luxury of evaluating our circumstances from an outside perspective.
With this book, you’ll get the chance to, starting at Chapter 1.
Once you learn more about the mystery in the mirror, you’ll discover how to use your strengths to empower your children. Along the way, you’ll find ways to shake off guilt, stay firm in your decisions, and finally trust your gut.
Three Words You Need to Know
No, it’s not “I love you”, though that would be a sweet sentiment.
Instead, I’m talking about the Dynamic Decision Process. You’ll discover the secret to DDP success early on in the book, and there’s a reason for that. Learning this trademarked little system as soon as possible can save you a ton of stress and sleepless nights.
The way it works is simple: When a parenting situation arises, you learn to toggle your thinking between short-term realities and long-term visions. The result? A clear, effective strategy that does much more than simply respond to the meltdown in front of you.
The DDP is a core principle in the book, and it contains many of the lessons you’ll learn in other sections. When you know how to do it, you’re not only interacting with your kids more efficiently. You’re also tapping into your parental superpower to make life easier down the road.
The Magic Mantra
The DDP is one parenting tool to keep in your back pocket, or at least that catch-all drawer in the kitchen.
The Magic Mantra is another.
If you’re not familiar with mantras, they’re short and snappy sayings that are easy to remember and repeat throughout the day.
For instance, if your kids are playing pirates with the hamper and blasting the Alexa, your mantra might be “I’m calm and in control”. Or, you might whisper “Messes are memories” during a particularly disheveled baking session where there’s butter in your hair and chocolate chips down the hall.
Let me introduce you to one that will change your life: “I’m only in charge of me; I’m not in charge of you.”
I’ll share exactly how to use this mantra in Chapter 7, but if you’re struggling with setting boundaries or sidestepping drama, it’s one you can’t afford to miss.
Navigating Your Role as a Parent
The first section of the book focuses on internal, individual growth and how it relates to your parenting. The second half is devoted to leaning deeply into this role that you’re in.
If you’re tired of yelling, stressing, and frantically over-planning, it’s time for a seismic shift in the way you approach your children. While no book or manual can guarantee you’ll get it right every single time, there are proven guidelines that help.
You’ll find many of them in Part Two.
First, we’ll explore the power of being your child’s partner, rather than an authority figure that shouts down at them incessantly. You’ll also learn how to finally receive (and freely give) the respect you’ve been craving. The cycle of nit-picking and name-calling can take its toll on the whole family, and there’s an easier way.
If you’re dealing with tight-lipped teens who’d rather part their hair on the side than talk about their day, Chapter 10 will be especially eye-opening. Wondering how to get your kids to open up and share what’s on their mind? I’ll show you the strategies to try, such as leading with logic, not emotion.
We’ll also dive into other hard-hitting questions, like what to do if:
- Your kid bites, hits, or throws a major tantrum in Target
- Engages in constant backtalk
- Lies to you
- Become addicted to social media
- Much more
Some of these are habits, while others are just phases. Some are even veiling hidden motives. I’ll show you how to decipher the difference.
Get a Copy of My Parenting Book Today
Every parent needs a little (or a lot) of reassurance. We’re all doing our best, though it often feels like we’re one of those YouTube pandas just sliding all over the snow.
In “Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck”, I’m offering you the ultimate reference guide.
In this post, we’ve only scratched the surface of the insights you’ll find in the pages. Learn more about the parenting book, order a copy today, and pick up another for your friend. We’re all in this together, and relief is on the way.